Daddy's Corner

So you think she might be pregnant...

Here's some quick advice that may be of benefit to you right now:

 

An unplanned pregnancy can leave you feeling surprised, scared, and trapped. As a man, you may feel like you don’t want to deal with this decision. She needs to hear from you. But before you share your thoughts with her, give us a call to understand your options. Make an appointment with Pete Reyes.

 

  • Don't let her walk alone.

  • Understand her fears.

 

The worst thing you can do for her steps out of the picture right now. Understand what her fears are and resolve to not let her walk alone. It’s important to slow down and take this one step at a time.

 

Many times women think they may be pregnant at the first typical sign of pregnancy without taking a test. At this point, the two of you should visit a pregnancy resource center to obtain a free pregnancy test to find out if she is indeed pregnant. Contact us to find the pregnancy center nearest you.

 

Our coaches are here to listen and guide you through the steps that you need to take to make the best choice.

The Do's

  • Listen. The situation involves more than just you.

 

  • There are now three lives to think about.

 

  • Stay Calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you too.

 

  • Talk about it - not only with each other but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you, only increases the stress.

 

  • Gather the facts. Get all the information and seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for you both.

 

  • Express yourself honestly - it's normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.

The Don'ts

  • Don't bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

  • Don't pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. Both of you would do well to work together as a team.

  • Don't forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.